Step 2 in Changing Your 'Reality'

Another enormous response from you guys about Monday's email. I got a lot of great answers as to what the first step in changing your 'reality' should be, but almost all of them boiled down to the basic need to have a healthy and positive self-image of yourself.

So what's step 2?

In my books, the next step is getting a CLEAR VISION of what you want.

Your 'reality' is based on what your purpose is. If your purpose is mixed up and not very clear, then your 'reality' will seem scattered and unorganized. That's frustrating.

If your purpose is exact, then your 'reality' is filled with precision and useful action.

A clear vision of what you truly want gives you the ability to know exactly what your priorities are.

A client of mine and I had this exact conversation this morning. She was training for a fitness competition and while away on vacation she tore her rotator cuff. That's when she came to me for rehab and training advice. This week, everything was feeling a lot better, until Monday when she seemed to reinjure it while teaching a fitness class (she's very motivated...and admitebly doesn't listen to rehab advice sometimes).

She was very frustrated and in pain. Today we sat down and went over why this has been so frustrating to her and what her TRUE priorities are.

As a result I found out that the only reason she was really doing the fitness competition was because everybody told her she should. (Tip: If you're going after a goal that doesn't give you a burning desire to complete, then you're wasting your time)
I then asked her about her priorities. What was more important to her.

She said priority number 1 was her business. Priority number 2 was being able to teach her classes (she absolutely loves teaching her fitness classes, at this point, the tears started to come out). And her third priority was the fitness competition.

Once we pinned down the priorities it was clear to her that the fitness competition wasn't as important to her as she thought. She HATED dieting for one thing, she's does not want to shelf out a thousand bucks on supplements (when she told me this, I was a little annoyed that her dietition was going to make her take all these crazy things), and this WASN'T her goal.

INSTANTLY, after our half hour talk, the weight had been lifted off of her shoulders, she was a lot happier, she had a clear vision on now what needed to be done, and she stopped craving peanut butter :).

In a matter of a half hour of thinking and talking, she changed her 'reality' from one of frustration and agony, to one of hope and happiness.

It's amazing what you can do if you have a clear vision of what you want.

Sit down and write out what your priorities are in your life. Figure out what is stressing you out and if they really should be (where are those stresses on your priority list?)

When people are frustrated and lost because they are overwhelmed, a lot of negative thinking occurs.

When people realize what they want and have a clear focus on it, it brings nothing but true positive thinking, because the more clear the vision, the more 'real' it has become.

What is your VISION for yourself?

What are your priorities?

Please, let me know.

Keep ROCKIN' IT!

Dan Grant
The Vitality Coach

PS - I'd love to hear from you. I read all of my emails everyday. And, although, I cannot answer then that very day sometimes, I will get back to you if you'd like...just give me a couple days :).