Step One In Changing Your 'Reality'

WOW!

First off, THANK YOU for all the kind words from
the last email. It's an amazing feeling knowing
the true impact that some of my emails have on
people. You guys are the best.

I got a pretty consistent question from the mass
of emails I did receive so I want to try and
answer it to the best of my ability.

"How can you change your current 'reality' into a
new 'reality'?"

There's no clear, do this and you have a
different reality I don't think. Obviously, it's
a change in mindset that brings you the new
reality, but I feel if you want to change it for
good you need steps to make that new mindset a
habit (or the way you always will now think).

I think the first step is learning to have a
positive self-image.

We were born with a choice. A choice we still
have today. Are we going to be successful or not?

I've struggled with positive self-image in the
past and still slightly do today. There were
times where it really held me back from doing
something that could have made my career a lot
more successful.

I'm 6'3" and about 210 pounds, so I'm not a small
guy, but sometimes I get 'skinny' syndrome where
I think I'm too skinny and for some reason I
think people won't listen to my advice because
I'm not packed with huge muscle. And it's
RIDICULOUS that I think that sometimes.

At those times I have a poor self-image of myself
and it stops me from sharing my thoughts and
opinions with people sometimes.

Why do I think that way sometimes and why do I
let that hold me back sometimes?
Growing up I was very skinny. When I went to
college I was 6'2" and 168 pounds. First thing
coaches told me, "You're way too skinny, we need
to bulk you up."

A lot of things said to me about my size where
about me being too skinny.

Well, that's negative. It makes it sound like
being skinny is a BAD thing. So all of a sudden I
think less of myself because of my size. How
stupid is that?

I understand why I needed to get bigger (I wanted
too...I always wanted to be bigger), but the
constant barrage of information being sent into
my mind about being too skinny gave it such a
negative undertone that in my head, I was too
skinny and that was my 'reality'.

I now know that my 'reality' is that my body size
is FINE and what's important is that I live a life of
good health and the information I use that helps
people.

Because the more you help people get what they
want, the more you get of what you want.

I do this to help people. The more people I help,
the happier I am, and the more confident I am in
my abilities.

I'm very successful at what I do, because I have
the up most confidence IN MYSELF to be able to
deliver those results to people. There were
choices involved in me becoming that confident.

It was a choice for me to read and study all of
that research. It was a choice for me to read all
those success books. It was a choice for me to
apply and try out the information I learned from
those success books. I'm not exactly re-inventing
the wheel here. I'm applying what has worked for
people in the past, using it myself, and then
passing it on to people who don't know about it.

It's then THEIR choice whether they use it or
not.

Sometimes when I talk about training philosophies
and what I teach, I sometimes get someone saying,
"well, that's not really news to me, I've heard
that before."

"Have you applied it with your training then?"

"No"

"Well, then why are you asking me for advice? If
you've tried and failed with that information,
then you would have gained knowledge as to what
might not work for you. If you didn't try it,
then it was like you never heard that news,
because NOTHING happened."

I think I'll stop here, before I get off track
and start rambling.

There's obviously a step 2. But step 1, is
getting a positive self-image of yourself and
accepting the fact that the choice to succeed or
fail is YOURS and YOURS alone.

Again, I WANT to hear your thoughts. Please email
them to me.

Keep ROCKIN' IT!

Dan Grant
The Vitality Coach

PS - The new site is getting there. Since the
crash we've obviously had a lot to do. Justin (my
manager) is doing a great job getting all the
information back and on the site.

PPS - just click 'reply' and let me know what you
think is the the first step in changing your
'reality'.